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Help! I think my puppy is beginning to dislike me…?
My puppy is a 8 week old Pug. She came home when she was 4 weeks (I know she was too young, and I could go into details, but it’d take too long). Since her arrival, I’ve being spending most of my time at home with her. I don’t work, cos I’m living abroad (India) with my husband.We don’t have children, so it’s just me and Chanel (the lovely puppy) at home all day. He leaves to work in the morning, sometimes he says hello and pet her a little before leaving, and when he comes home, he spends maybe 2 hours with her, in the Tv room. Ok, I was the one who wanted a dog, so I take care of her. By that, I also mean that I am the one, not only feedind, of course, but housebreaking and teaching basic stuff. She already replies to her name, knows "sit", "come", "eat"… I am having a lot of trouble with her, regarding the biting. Which I already posted some questions here asking for help (in addition to books and info on the web I’ve being reading). The thing is, she’s started to not reply to "come" anymore these last days; she used to run towards me before, now she doens’t move; if I give her a toy to play with, she takes it and goes far from where I am. Because the biting was getting too much, I began to use the technique of "ignoring" her alone for a while. But she does bite all the time, still, so the time she spends alone, became longer and longer (not in one single time, but all in all, during the day). I’m afraid I am being "punished" by her, for trying to teach her the commands (which I make a funny time, with treats and do keep them short). She was doing so well, and seemed so interested on me and in the "training sessions" before, but now she doesn’t like it anymore. My husband just follows what I tell him to do with her. He likes her, just isn’t a big dog person, but if she is around him, he also plays and pet her a lot. Maybe I feel that he is becoming the "good guy" and I, "the bad one". I know she is young, so I’m not teaching her "complicated or advanced stuff", just basics and, mainly now, trying to stop the biting. But how do I get her to still want to be around me, and at the same time, teach her that certain things are not allowed? She likes my presence, notice that, when I come and she starts play "biting" with me, which I then stop. Other than this kind of "game", she doesn’t want me so much… Everytime I put her on my lap, try to play with a toy or pet her on the sofa, seems boring for her, and the biting starts so the fun is over , so she gets far from me. I give her my best, in all senses. She doesn’t seem scared of me (no reason to be, I never hurt or hit her, anything like that), the feeling I have is that she finds me boring and too difficult to be around. Please, what should I do to get her trust and interest back? Stop the training? Let her try to grow out of the biting phase, by herself? Just play in wherever way she wants?
You know, I think you’ve started the training way too soon. Normally puppies are still with their mothers at 8 weeks and even when they go to their new owners they should be allowed to settle in and get their bearings and then just have natural play within the confines of your own garden.
All puppies go through this phase of not wanting to be fussed and cuddled all the time - there are much more exciting things to do once they find their feet. It’s their way of becoming independent as they start to explore and they all look for mischief at this age……..I know!
The first basic command a puppy should learn is ’sit’ when they have had time to settle in their new home. The rest of the training will follow.
At first your puppy probably thought you were just playing with her but now she is bored with all this training you are trying to hammer into her.
My advice would be to just let her play quietly with her toys. Get her a Kong and fill it with some of her daily ration of Kibble and let her amuse herself with that every now and then while you get on with something else. As I said before, you don’t want to saturate her brain with all this training. Wait until she is at least 3 months old - she will respond much quicker then.
Once she has had all her shots try and take her for little rides in the car to get her used to it and maybe just walk a little way around in your Supermarket car park with her to get her used to traffic and she will then learn to socialise with people because everyone wants to come over to see a new puppy and she will have plenty of admirers I’m sure.
Try not to get too obsessed over her. She needs to be allowed to develop slowly but surely.You will soon get her trust back again. Let her come to you when she wants to. In other words take a step back and leave off the training for the time being.
7 Responses to “Help! I think my puppy is beginning to dislike me…?”
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May 29th, 2010 at 1:22 am
Leave your home with the dog and start getting out. Find the library or the book store and find a book or DVD on how to train your dog. Your dog is positioning itself as the Alpha in your home. You are not completing a portion of the technique of refusing to engage in play. As soon as puppy starts to bite or nip, give a loud, yelping OUCH!!! Glare at the pup, get up and move away. After a minute or so, get a toy and return to puppy. Encourage the puppy to play with the toy. If he goes for you with a nip, repeat yelping and walking away.
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May 29th, 2010 at 2:01 am
don’t play that ‘biting game’ thingy again. Doing that will assure her that you allow it. when she wants to play, don’t react to it. Try introducing her to new games that she would be interested in.
and don’t worry too much about her disliking you. if she does, she would be barking at you right now.
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May 29th, 2010 at 2:40 am
Why the hell did you bring her home when she was only 4 weeks, they are still meant to be with there mothers at this time, you should be ashamed of yourself!
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May 29th, 2010 at 3:20 am
She doesn’t dislike you.
You need to establish yourself as pack leader. Set routines with feeding, playtime, training time. take her on walks with her beside or behind you (not in front or else she’ll be dominant) before training is a good idea cus it gets her in the right frame of mind. Dogs live in the moment. I really suggest you start reading cesar millans stuff. http://www.cesarmillaninc.com/
He’s a dog whisperer and i think maybe if u read his stuff you’ll get a better understanding of how a dogs mind works and how to live happily with your new companion. and dont worry, my puppy is 16 months old and we’re still trying to break the biting phase. be consistent, calm, assertive and patient
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May 29th, 2010 at 4:00 am
Well, this is just my idea… Your puppy is a PUPPY. She should play a little every day. I think that you should have planned training sessions, as well as having fun and playing with your puppy. She obviously wants you to wrestle with her and play like any other type of dog would. The biting might also be getting a way of attention, just imagine her as a kid, they don’t want to be taught all the time, they all look foward to lunch.. It the exact same thing with your dog. She wants to have some fun time, but, she still needs to learn. So, my advice is, to have scheduled training sessions and have scheduled play sessions. As for your biting problem, try tapping her nose or making a sharp "Ah’ sound when she bites you. Dog’s don’t like to get startled. If that doesn’t work look at the other questions regarding dog problems..
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May 29th, 2010 at 4:32 am
You know, I think you’ve started the training way too soon. Normally puppies are still with their mothers at 8 weeks and even when they go to their new owners they should be allowed to settle in and get their bearings and then just have natural play within the confines of your own garden.
All puppies go through this phase of not wanting to be fussed and cuddled all the time - there are much more exciting things to do once they find their feet. It’s their way of becoming independent as they start to explore and they all look for mischief at this age……..I know!
The first basic command a puppy should learn is ’sit’ when they have had time to settle in their new home. The rest of the training will follow.
At first your puppy probably thought you were just playing with her but now she is bored with all this training you are trying to hammer into her.
My advice would be to just let her play quietly with her toys. Get her a Kong and fill it with some of her daily ration of Kibble and let her amuse herself with that every now and then while you get on with something else. As I said before, you don’t want to saturate her brain with all this training. Wait until she is at least 3 months old - she will respond much quicker then.
Once she has had all her shots try and take her for little rides in the car to get her used to it and maybe just walk a little way around in your Supermarket car park with her to get her used to traffic and she will then learn to socialise with people because everyone wants to come over to see a new puppy and she will have plenty of admirers I’m sure.
Try not to get too obsessed over her. She needs to be allowed to develop slowly but surely.You will soon get her trust back again. Let her come to you when she wants to. In other words take a step back and leave off the training for the time being.
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May 29th, 2010 at 4:47 am
I realised puppy only follow master or fiercer people. I spend most of the time with my puppy, play with him but he will prefer others than me. He will follow my brother around when he come to my house even though my brother will smack him because he keep following him. But, he will just sit beside my brother as if he is the REAL Master. The same thing happen to my partner who always beat him up, he will only stick with my partner.
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